The last two weeks have been a bit of a blur. I picked up some horrid bug for a few days and I have spent the last week catching up at work.
Oh, and I started my second-year studies.
After a faltering start last month, we all began again with a new tutor. What a difference a month makes, it was an amazing beginning to what looks like a very exciting year.
The new tutor is clearly very intelligent and a highly experienced therapist. I feel I’m going to learn loads from her, and I can’t wait.
We began by looking at the psychodynamic approach. Who knew there were so many types of counselling? I have to say that one of the benefits of the course I am on is that we learn many approaches so that we can choose the right method that will help empower our clients with the tools to enable them to resolve their problems themselves.
This sounds like an obvious way to treat clients, but some therapists focus only on one modality, and we know in life one size does not fit all, so why should one modality fit every individual?
It makes me wonder how many people have had therapy that’s not been suitable for them, and if it hasn’t been suitable has that put people off seeking help elsewhere? Do people know they have alternatives?
I have also thought about what therapist’s charge their clients, and do you get what you pay for? With an increase in people looking for advice about their mental health conditions, where do they turn? When I began to struggle many years ago, I first went to my GP. I was offered NHS counselling for 6 weeks which I readily accepted. I did not feel it was helpful at all, but when my daughter was referred to CAHMS because she was in crisis, she was provided with treatment that has really benefitted her. Is it just the luck of the draw?
I finally found a private therapist that I connected with and she has really made an impact on my life in so many ways. She helped me become a better parent and a better person. I am working on becoming the person that I want to be. I don’t mind paying for my therapy because I know it benefits me, and although my journey took me to a couple of other therapists before I settled on my current one, I’m glad I kept trying. I am a much happier, content and relaxed person.
Financing therapy can be difficult, and therapist’s charges vary widely. From free NHS therapy to paying £75 per session I have done it all. I am not wealthy by any stretch of the imagination. I am a single parent with two teenagers, but I know my mental health has to be a priority, and for me therapy is like food and water ….. I need it!
So, I guess what I’m saying is, if you are looking for a good therapist, don’t just accept the first one you come across. Make sure your therapist is the right person for you, understand their working approach and if it’s not working for you, say so. Any therapist who is working to their code of ethics will understand.
Therapy is a way to help yourself. Don’t settle.